Nietzche on Hardship

How to survive a disaster?

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“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

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“Things don’t always turn out the way you imagined. Life deals you a hand and no matter what cards you are holding you have to play them. And honey, it is hard, and it never stops being hard. But you learn, and you change, and you grow. And even in my darkest moments I remind myself – it’s the reason we are all here. So you got fired, so you’re back down at the bottom again. It could be worse. so get back up and keep fighting.” — Being Erica S02E11

Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

This is a prepared text of the Commencement address delivered by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, on June 12, 2005.

35. The law of Courage : The ability to make decisions and act boldly in the face of setbacks and adversity is the key to greatness in leadership.

43. The law of Emotional Maturity : Leaders are calm, cool, and controlled in the face of problems, difficulties and adversity.

100 laws of life by Brian Tracy

 

This is a tribute to a very strong woman who does not know how wonderful she is. Sometimes, it is difficult for us to see and realize that how powerful we are. Especially, when we are not doing that well financially and rest of the world seems to bring us down further. This story below is dedicated to those who are facing adversity in their life:

May you be coffee beans!

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee…You will never look at a cup of
coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how
things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make
it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It
seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and
placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she
placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she
placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a
word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the
carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and
placed them in a bowl.

Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asks, “Tell me what you see.”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did
and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to
take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the
hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter
smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What does
it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in
strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the
boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile.
Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after
sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The
ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling
water, they had changed the
water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with
pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the
heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a
financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and
stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and
tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water,
the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it
releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things
are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you
elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you
a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

If something bad happens like an accident on our journey, a person needs to keep going because our spirit is strong and heart forgiving. Dust yourself off and just keep going. Sometimes there are lessons hidden in our adversity of humility, courage and inner strength.

Overcoming Adversity

 

 

Think about a novel or movie that you found engaging. Why was it so? Conflict. Conflict makes a story interesting, it moves the story forward, engages the reader/viewer, causes the protagonist to stretch, grow, take risks.
Adversity is good—as long as you move through it to the other side.

 

There are many types of adversity. Check the ones you’re dealing with now:

 

  • Human vs. Human
  • Human vs. Society
  • Human vs. Self
  • Human vs. Nature
  • Human vs. Universal Force/God/Higher Self

 

The GREAT news is that the only problem you’ll ever have is YOU. The BETTER news is that YOU have all the solutions too. What you think and feel creates your world.

 

Here are some tools for moving through each one:

 

Human vs. Human:

When struggling with others it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with this person? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself with the other: see the two of you as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with the other: consider how you might react in their situation, with their point of view, their potentially limiting beliefs. Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

Human vs. Society:

When struggling with society and societal mores and conditioning, it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with society? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself with society: see both society and you as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with the other: consider how you might react in society’s situation, with its prevalent point of view and potentially limiting beliefs. Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

 

Human vs. Self:

When struggling with yourself, it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with myself? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself: see the parts of yourself that are in conflict as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with the other part of yourself: consider how you might react were you to change places with the part of yourself you’re struggling with, consider its prevalent point of view and potentially limiting beliefs. Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

 

Human vs. Nature:

When struggling with nature, it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with nature? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself with nature: see both nature and yourself as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with nature: consider how you might react in nature’s situation, with its need to preserve itself and its force that humans sometimes cannot understand. Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

Human vs. God/Universal Force/Higher Self (insert your preferred term here)

When struggling with God, it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with God? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself with God: see both of you as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with the other: consider how you might react in God’s situation, this may be a stretch, but give it a shot! Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

Remember: The GREAT news is that the only problem you’ll ever have is YOU. The BETTER news is that YOU have all the solutions too. What you think and feel creates your world.

-Christine Comaford-Lynch’s book Rules for Renegades


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