Category: You Can Do It
Are you suffering form severe low self-esteem?

Are you suffering from severe low self-esteem?

You can use the following Visualizations, Affirmations, Incantations and Self-talk to help yourself. The following words, videos and ideas are useful in uplifting your spirits.

All is well in my world.
Trust life to take me wherever and to whatever is for my highest good.
Everything is working out for my highest good.
Out of this situation only good will come.
I am safe. I practice unconditional love and happiness in my life.

I love and accept myself.
I am always safe wherever I go and wherever I am Universe will take care of me.
Whatever I need to know would be revealed to me.
Everything that I need comes to me in a perfect time and space sequence. So much good comes into my life.
Life is joy and filled with love.
I am loving, I am loved & I operate from the loving space in my heart.
I prosper wherever I turn. How can I help? My income is constantly increasing.
I am willing to learn and grow.
I am willing to let go of whatever does not work.
I can become more of who I am.
I belong.
I matter.
I like myself.
I can do it.
I feel terrific.
I embrace change.
I can do anything I choose.
I am supported.
I am intelligent, I have potential to last me 100 life times, I am a genius.

I am good enough, I have enough and I do enough.
Life is joyful.
I can trust.
I am important.
I am unique.
Love is safe.
I trust the process of life.
I am complete.
I am capable.
I am confident.
I am powerful.
I am creative.
I am energized.
I am resourceful.

Kiss that frog by Brain Tracy book excerpts.
No matter where you are today, or what you have done or not done in the past, you need to accept seven essential truths about you as a person:

  1. You are a thoroughly good and excellent person; valuable and worthwhile beyond measures. No one is better than you or more gifted than you. Only when you doubt your essential goodness and value do you begin to question yourself. The inability to accept that you are a good person lies at the root of much of your discontent.
  2. You are important, in many, many ways. To start with, you are important to yourself. Your personal universe revolves around you as an individual. You give meaning to everything that you see or hear. Nothing in your world has any significance except for the significance that you attribute to it. You are also important to your parents. Your birth was a significant moment in their lives, and as you grew up, almost everything you did was meaningful to them. You are important to your own family, to your own partner or spouse, your children, and the other members of your social circle. Some of the things you do or say have an enormous impact on them. You are important to your company, your customers, your coworkers, and your community. The things you do or don’t do can have a tremendous effect on the lives and work of others. How important you feel largely determines the quality of your life. Happy, successful people feel important and valuable. Because they feel and act this way, it becomes true for them. Unhappy, frustrated people feel unimportant and of little value. They feel frustrated and unworthy. They feel “ I’m not good enough” and as results they lash out at the world and engage in behaviors that hurt themselves and others. They don’t realize that they could be a prince or princess inside.
  3. You have unlimited potential and ability to create your life and your world as you desire. You could not use your entire potential if you lived one hundred lifetimes. No matter what you have accomplished up to now it is merely a hint of what is truly possible for you. And the more of your natural talents and abilities you develop in the present, the more of your potential you can develop in the future. Your belief in your almost unlimited potential is the key to becoming everything you are truly capable of becoming.
  4. You create your world in every respect by the way you think and the depth of your convictions. Your beliefs actually create your realities, and every belief you have about yourself you learned, starting in infancy. The amazing thing is that most of the negative or self-limiting beliefs and doubts that interfere with your happiness and success are not based on fact or reality at all. When you begin to question your self-limiting beliefs and develop beliefs consistent with the incredible person you really are, your life will begin to change almost immediately.
  5. You are always free to choose the content of your thoughts and the direction of your life. The one thing over which you have complete control is your inner life and your thinking. You can decide to think happy, fulfilling uplifting thoughts that lead to positive actions and results. Or you can, by default, end up choosing negative, self-limiting thoughts that trip you up and hold you back. Your mind is like a garden: if you do not deliberately cultivates flowers, weeds will grow automatically without any effort on your part. If you do not deliberately plan and cultivate positive thoughts, negative thoughts will grow in their place. This simple metaphor about the garden explains why so many people are unhappy and don’t think why.
  6. You are put on this earth with a great destiny: you are meant to do something wonderful with your life. You have a unique combination of talents, abilities, ideas, insights, and experiences that make you different from anyone who has ever lived. You are designed for success and engineered for greatness. Your acceptance or nonacceptance of this point largely determines the size of the goals you set, your power of persistence in the face of adversity, the height of your achievements, and the whole direction of your life.
  7. There are no limits to what you can do, be, or have except the limits you place on your own thinking and your own potential.


1. Never criticize myself-breaks down my spirit. accept myself actually I am. I can always change. I approve of myself. Choose thoughts of life giving, loving, nurturing, building myself up.
2. Don’t scare myself. Don’t catastrophe. Be there myself for myself. Negative affirmations. Pick an image hiking switch thought.
3. Be gentle, kind and patient with myself. Garden, plant, seed, sun, water and some attention. Garden grow and flower. What type of seeds experiences that I would like to grow. WEEDS-old negative thoughts. Treat myself as someone that I really like or a child that I love. (Little bit practice) I love you more today than yesterday.
4. Be kind to my mind. We are all worth loving. We don’t need to earn the right to love. RESPONSIBILITY for decisions affecting my life-How would I choose to response? Stopping all guilt, all pain, all blame, all punishment. Respond to myself and life in a loving way. RELAXATION. DEEP BREATHS. I LOVE YOU ALL IS WELL. MEDITATE. HEALING. WHAT IS IT THAT I NEED TO KNOW? DON’T GIVE MY THOUGHTS TO IMPORTANCE. ALL THE ANSWERS ARE WITHIN ME. FOCUSING ON MY INNER VOICE. VISUALIZATION CLEAR PICTURE POSITIVE-COOL, COLD WATER WASHING OUT, STRONG AND HEALTHY BODY.
5. Praise myself. Builds myself. Deserve??? What are the beliefs in my life? What is my purpose? What am I willing to do? I only deserve.
6. Support myself. (ask for groups)
7. Be loving to my negatives. I created to serve me. Letting go of old patterns lovingly. I hate… Release with love. Allow new stuff to come into my life. I am never wrong until I find a better way to handle it. Fulfil those needs in a much more positive way. HUMOR-LIGHTEN UP. LAUGHING MYSELF INTO WELLNESS
8. Take care of my body. This is the house I live in. Exercise. Watch what I put into my body. What do I put into my body? Meeting my needs. Lowers immune system to dangerous levels. Escape. Feel our feelings. New good cells. What gives me energy? I love you. What can I do for you today to make you happy? Run to the mirror (I love you/ thank you/ for give you) LOVE & APPROVAL. Dissatisfied with myself. Don’t wait to…tell yourself now. I am willing to….LOVE, ACCEPT & APPROVAL myself and others.


1. It will be difficult – I have the ability to accomplish any task I set my mind to with ease and comfort.
2. It’s going to be risky – Being myself involves no risks. It is my ultimate truth, and I live it fearlessly.
3. It will take a long time – I have infinite patience when it comes to fulfilling my destiny.
4. There will be family drama – I would rather be loathed for who I am than loved for who I am not.
5. I don’t deserve it – I am a Divine creation, a piece of God. Therefore, I cannot be undeserving.
6. It’s not my nature – My essential nature is perfect and faultless. It is to this nature that I return.
7. I can’t afford it – I am connected to an unlimited source of abundance.
8. No one will help me – The right circumstances and the right people are already here and will show up on time.
9. It has never happened before – I am willing to attract all that I desire, beginning here and now.
10. I’m not strong enough – I have access to unlimited assistance. My strength comes from my connection to my Source of being.
11. I’m not smart enough – I am a creation of the Divine mind; all is perfect, and I am a genius in my own right.
12. I’m too old (or not old enough) – I am an infinite being. The age of my body has no bearing on what I do or who I am.
13. The rules won’t let me – I live my life according to Divine rules.
14. It’s too big – I think only about what I can do now. By thinking small, I accomplish great things.
15. I don’t have the energy – I feel passionately about my life, and this passion fills me with excitement and energy.
16. It’s not my personal family history – I live in the present moment by being grateful for all of my life experiences as a child.
17. I’m too busy – As I unclutter my life, I free myself to answer the callings of my soul.
18. I’m too scared – I can accomplish anything I put my mind to, because I know that I am never alone.


1. Desire and Passion: I have a fervent drive to succeed and zeal for the tasks required.
2. Energy: I have stamina to tackle problems.
3. Ability to Thrive on Uncertainty: I can prosper in an environment with many questions and few answers.
4. Determination and Resiliency: I can hang on in hard times and recover quickly.
5. Accountability: I take responsibility for my own success.
6. Persuasiveness: I Convincingly communicate with others—bankers, vendors, employees.
7. Self-Discipline: I can do the tasks necessary to succeed, whether pleasant or unpleasant.
8. Self-Confidence: I believe that somehow I can solve whatever problems arise.
9. Social Responsibility: I am passionately motivated to share success and wealth by giving back.
10. Ethics: I deal with others with honesty and integrity.
11. Ability to Value Appropriate Control Systems: I value the management and control systems necessary to run a business.
12. Problem Solving: I have an ability to anticipate and troubleshoot problems.
13. Networking: I connect with others and build strategic relationships.
14. Market Awareness: I can scan the marketplace and assess potential needs and gaps.
15. Low Support Needs: I provide for my own needs with little support from others.
16. Business Knowledge: I have a basis for making effective, profitable business decisions.
17. Good People Judgement: I can pick the right people to help execute my vision.

The Law of Resonance-The frequency, the vibration, the energy, the projections and the resonance that I am sending out to the universe.  How am I feeling and what emotions I have behind my thoughts? What am I thinking?  What is the quality of my thinking? Positive self-talk, unlimited, abundance, faith, hope, love, focusing on what I want. Five physical senses, thoughts are affected by our beliefs and perceptions.  New stories and I can. Allow, invite, release, conscious and aware. I am in the process of attracting…Wouldn’t it be nice if…

Law of Cause and Affect-Thought+Feeling=Result
Law of Control-
Law of Expectation-
Law of Vibration-
Law of Sympathetic Resonance-
Law of Correspondence-360 degrees reflection of my inner self
Law of Superconscience activity- any thought, goal, plan, or idea that I hold in my mind must be brought into reality(VERY CLEAR SPECIFIC GOAL MOST OF THE TIME) List 10 goals. 1 major definite purpose (the greatest positive impact in my life (THINK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME) (TALK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME) (HOW)(IMAGINE)(IDEAS TO TAKE ACTION TO MOVE TOWARDS THE GOAL)– Magic wand in 24 hours. HABIT OF TAKING ACTION. WHATEVER I WANT, WANTS ME. 99% OF THE TIME OFF COURSE.

The Laws of Life

1. The law of Cause and Effect: Everything happens for a reason; for every effect there is a specific cause.

(This is the ultimate law; everything you are at this moment in time, is because of all your past thoughts and actions, i.e. cause

and effect, in the past.)

2. The law of Belief: Whatever you truly believe, with feeling, becomes your reality.

(This is the law controlling your mind and vision and thus, reality. You are what you believe.)

3. The law of Expectations: Whatever you expect, with confidence, becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

(If you expect to fail, you will; if you expect to succeed, you will.)

4. The law of Attraction: You are a living magnet; you invariably attract into your life the people, situations, and

circumstances that are in harmony with your dominant thoughts.

(Be extremely careful in selecting the people you deal with and friends who share your optimistic thought process.)

5. The law of Correspondence: Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world; it corresponds with your dominant

patterns of thinking.

(Signifies the importance of a clear mind (as in Getting Things Done) and dominant thought; you are what you think about

most of the time.)

The Laws of Success

6. The law of Control: You feel good about yourself to the degree to which you feel that you are in control of your own life.

– Change is inevitable.

– Controlled change leads inevitably to greater achievement than uncontrolled change.

– To take control of your life, you must begin by taking control of your mind.

(Internal control and external control are so much related; and thus, is inner peace and outer peace.)

7. The law of Accident: Life is a series of random occurrences and things just happen by accident. – By failing to plan, you are

planning to fail.

(Life is random; but planning eases that random chaos into a defined path.)

8. The law of Responsibility: You are completely responsible for everything you are and for everything you become and


– You are always free to choose what you think and what you do.

– Responsibility begins with your taking full and complete control over the content of your conscious mind.

– No one is coming to the rescue.

9. The law of Direction: Successful people have a clear sense of purpose and direction in every area of their lives.

10. The law of Compensation: You are always fully compensated for whatever you do, positive or negative.

11. The law of Service: Your rewards in life will be in direct proportion to the value of your service to others.

– All fortune begins with the sale of personal services.

– If you wish to increase the quantity of your rewards, you must first increase the quality and quantity of your service.

– Everyone works on commission.

12. The law of Applied Effort: All worthwhile achievements are amenable to hard work.

– All great success is preceded by a long period of hard, hard work in a single direction towards a clearly defined purpose.

– The harder you work, the luckier you get.

– To achieve more than the average person, you must work longer and harder than the average person.

13. The law of Overcompensation: If you always do more than you are paid for, you will always be paid more than you are

getting now.

14. The law of Preparation: Effective performance is preceded by painstaking preparation.

– Do your homework; it is the details that trip you up every single time.

– Action without thinking is the cause of every failure.

15. The law of Forced Efficiency: The more things you have to do in a limited period of time, the more you’ll be forced to

work on your most important tasks.

– There will never be enough time to do everything that you have to do.

– Only by stretching yourself can you discover how much you are truly capable of.

– You perform at your highest potential only when you are focusing on the most valuable use of your time.

16. The law of Decision: Every great leap forward in life is preceded by a clear decision and a commitment to action.

– Act boldly and unseen forces will come to your aid.

– Act as if it was impossible to fail, and it shall be.

– Just do it!

17. The law of Creativity: Every advance in life begins with an idea in the mind of a single person.

– Your ability to generate constructive ideas is, to all intents and purposes, unlimited. Therefore, your potential is unlimited as


– Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.

– Imagination rules the world.

– Imagination is more important than facts.

18. The law of Flexibility: Success is best achieved when you are clear about the goal but flexible about the process of getting


– The continued experience of resistance and frustration is often an indication that you are doing the wrong thing.

– You are only as free in life as the number of well-developed options you have available to you.

– Crisis is change trying to take place.

– Errant assumptions lie at the root of every failure.

19. The law of Persistence: Your ability to persist in the face of setbacks and disappointments is the measure of your belief in

yourself and your ability to succeed.

– Persistence is self-discipline in action.

– Never give in; never, never, give in.

20. The law of Purpose: The purpose of business is to create and keep a customer.

– Profits are a measure of how well the company is fulfilling its purpose.

– Profits are a cost of doing business, the cost of the future.

21. The law of Organization: A business organization is a group of people brought together for the common purpose of

creating and keeping customers.

22. The law of Customer Satisfaction: The customer is always right.

– If ever the customer seems wrong, refer back to the rule.

– All customer satisfaction comes from people dealing with other people.

– The best companies invariably have the best people.

– The key role of management is to achieve the maximum return on investment in human resources toward satisfying


23. The law of the Customer: The customer always acts to satisfy his/her interests by seeking the very most and best at the

lowest possible price.

– Customers are both demanding and ruthless; they reward highly those companies that serve them best and allow those

companies that serve them poorly to fail.

– Customers always behave rationally in pursuing the path of least resistance to get what they want.

– Proper business planning always begins with the customer as the central focus of attention and discussion.

24. The law of Quality: The customer demands the highest quality for the very lowest price.

– Quality is what the customer says it is and is willing to pay for.

– Quality includes both the product or service and the way that it is sold, delivered and maintained.

– Companies are profitable in direct proportion to their quality ranking, as customers perceive it.

25. The law of Obsolescence: Whatever exists is already becoming obsolete.

– Tomorrow will be different from today.

– Continuing innovation and improvement are essential to survival.

– The best way to predict the future is to create it.

26. The law of Innovation: All breakthroughs in business come from innovation, from offering something better, cheaper,

faster, newer or more efficient in the current marketplace.

27. The law of Critical Success Factors: Every business has a number of key success factors that measure and determine its

success or failure.

– Each individual has personal critical success factors, the performance of which determines his/her business future.

– Your weakest critical success factor determines the height at which you can use all your other skills.

28. The law of the Market: The market is where buyers and sellers of products and services meet to set prices and determine

the allocation of money, labor, materials, and all factors of production. – In a free market, resources will be allocated with

complete efficiency and prices will accurately reflect supply and demand to that moment.

– The free market is the most efficient way for millions of people to have their needs met at the lowest possible cost.

– The freer the market is from government interference, the greater the supply and variety of goods and services and the

greater the prosperity of the people.

29. The law of Specialization: To succeed in a competitive marketplace, a product or service must be specialized to perform a

specific function and be excellent at satisfying a clearly defined need of customer.

30. The law of Differentiation: A product/service must have a competitive advantage or an area of excellence that enables it to

stand out from its competitors in some way if it is to succeed in a competitive marketplace.

– The determination of a unique selling proposition is the starting point of all successful advertising and sales.

– To succeed in the marketplace, a product/service must have a distinct advantage, something that makes it superior to

competing products and services.

31. The law of Segmentation: Companies must target specific customer groups or market segment if they are to achieve

significant sales.

– Many companies fail because they are targeting the wrong market with the wrong product in the wrong way.

– The ideal market segment contains those customers for whom the product’s competitive advantage is the most important in

satisfying their most pressing needs.

32. The law of Concentration : Market success comes from concentrating single-mindedly on selling to those customers you

have segmented as being the ones who can most benefit immediately from the unique product/service features you offer in

your area of specialization.

– The best high-profit strategy is dominating a specific market niche with the best product available for those customers in that


– Concentration on high-profit market segments with high-profit products and services gives the highest return on sales, return

on investment, and return on equity.

33. The law of Excellence: The market pays excellent returns and rewards for excellent performance, excellent products, and

excellent services.

– The market pays average rewards for average performance and below-average rewards for below-average performance.

The Laws of Leadership

34. The law of Integrity: Great business leadership is characterized by honesty, truthfulness, and straight dealing with every

person, under all circumstances.

35. The law of Courage: The ability to make decisions and act boldly in the face of setbacks and adversity is the key to

greatness in leadership.

36. The law of Realism: Leaders deal with the world as it is, not as they wish it would be.

37. The law of Power: Power gravitates to the person who can use it most effectively to get the desired results.

(Expert power; Personal power; Position power; Ascribed power)

38: The law of Ambition: Leaders have an intense desire to lead; they have a clear vision of a better future, which they are

determined to realize.

39. The law of Optimism: The true leader radiates the confidence that all difficulties can be overcome and all goals can be


40. The law of Empathy: Leaders are sensitive to and aware of the needs, feelings, and motivations of those they lead.

41. The law of Resilience: Leaders bounce back from the inevitable setback, disappointments and temporary failures

experienced in the attainment of any worthwhile goal.

42. The law of Independence: Leaders know who they are and what they believe in, and they think for themselves.

43. The law of Emotional Maturity: Leaders are calm, cool, and controlled in the face of problems, difficulties and adversity.

44. The law of Superb Execution: Leaders are committed to excellent performance of the business task at hand and to

continuous improvement.

45. The law of Foresight: Leaders have the ability to predict and anticipate the future.

The Laws of Money

46: The law of Abundance: We live in an abundant universe in which there is sufficient money for all who really want it and

are willing to obey the laws governing its acquisition.

– People become wealthy because they decide to become wealthy.

– People are poor because they have not yet decided to become rich.

47: The law of Exchange: Money is the medium through which people exchange their labor in the productions of goods &

services for the goods & services of others.

– Money is the measure of the value that people place on goods & services.

– Your labor is viewed as a factor of production or a cost by others.

– The amount of money you earn is the measure of the value that others place on your contribution.

– Money is an effect, not a cause.

– To increase the amount of money you are getting out, you must increase the value of the work that you are putting in.

48: The law of Capital: Your most valuable asset, in terms of cash flow, is your physical and mental capital, your earning

ability. – Your most precious resource is your time.

– Time and money can either be spent or invested.

– One of the best investments of your time and money is to increase your earning ability.

49: The law of Time Perspective: The most important people in any society are those who take the longest time period into

consideration when making their day-to-day decisions. – Delayed gratification is the key to financial success.

– Self discipline is the most important personal quality for assuring long-term success.

– Sacrifice in the short term is the price you pay for security in the long term.

50. The law of saving: Financial freedom comes to people who save 10 percent or more of their income throughout their


– Pay yourself first.

– Take advantage of tax-deferred savings and investment plans.

51. The law of Conservation: It’s not how much you make but how much you keep that determines you financial future.

52. Parkinson’s Law: Expenses always rise to meet income.

– Financial independence comes from violating Parkinson’s Law.

– If you allow your expenses to increase at a slower rate than your income and you save/invest the difference, you will become

financially independent in your working lifetime.

53: The law of Three: There are three legs to the stool of financial freedom: savings, insurance and investment.

-To fully protect against the unexpected, you require liquid savings equal to two to six months of normal expenses.

– You must insure adequately to provide against any emergency that you cannot pay for out of your bank account.

– Your ultimate financial goal should be to accumulate capital until your investments are paying you more than you can earn

on your job.

54: The law of Investing: Investigate before you invest. – The only thing easy about money is losing it.

– Don’t lose money.

– If you think you can afford to lose a little, you’re going to end up losing a lot.

– Invest only with experts who have a proven track record of success with their own money.

55. The law of Compound Interest: Investing your money carefully and allowing it to grow at compound interest will

eventually make you rich.

– The key to compound interest is to put money away and never touch it.

56: The law of Accumulation: Every great financial achievement is an accumulation of hundreds of small efforts and

sacrifices that no one ever sees or appreciates.

– As your savings accumulate, you develop a momentum that moves you more rapidly towards your financial goals.

– By the yard it’s hard, but inch by inch, it’s a cinch.

57: The law of Magnetism: The more money you save and accumulate, the more money you attract into your life.

– A prosperity consciousness attracts money like iron filings to a magnet.

– It takes money to make money.

58. The law of Accelerating Acceleration: The faster you move towards financial freedom, the faster it moves towards you.

– Nothing succeeds like success.

– Fully 80% of your success will come in the last 20% of the time you invest.

The Laws of Selling

59: The law of Sales: Nothing happens until a sale takes place.

– Product and services are sold, not bought.

– Customers need to be asked to buy.

– Eighty percent of sales are closed after the fifth call or after the fifth closing attempt.

– 50% of salespeople quit after the first call in a complex sale, and 50% of salespeople fail to ask for the order even once in a

simple sale.

– Ask and ye shall receive.

60. The law of Determination: How high you rise is largely determined by how high you want to climb.

-You must commit to being the best in your field.

– To achieve high sales goals, you have to set them in the first place.

– You can’t fly with the eagles if you continue to scratch with the turkeys.

61. The law of Need: Every decision to purchase a product/service is an attempt to satisfy a need or relieve a dissatisfaction of

some need.

– Before selling anything to anyone, the salesperson must be clear about the need he/she is attempting to satisfy.

– Sales success comes from fulfilling existing needs, not create new jobs.

– The more basic they need, the more basic the sales presentation.

– The more complex the need, the more sophisticated and subtle must be the sales presentation.

– The obvious need is often not the real need for which the product will be purchased.

62. The law of Problems: Every product/service can be viewed as the solution to a problem or the resolution of an uncertainty.

– Customers buy solutions, not product/services.

– The more pressing the problem or need, the less price sensitive the customer and the easier the sale.

63. The law of Persuasion: The purpose of the selling process is to convince customers that they will be better off with the

product than they would be with the money necessary to buy the product.

– The customer always acts to satisfy the greatest number of unmet needs in the very best way at the lowest possible price.

– Proof that other people similar to the customer have purchased the product the product builds credibility, lowers resistance,

and increases sales.

– Testimonials of any kind increase desirability and lower price resistance to a product/service.

64: The law of Security: The deepest craving of human nature is the desire for personal, financial, and emotional security.

– The survival instinct is the strongest drive in human behavior.

– The need for safety is a powerful motivator of human behavior.

– The need to increase certainty underlies much of customer behavior.

65. The law of Risk: Risk is inherent in any investment of time, money, or emotion.

– You are successful in sales to the exact degree to which you can position yourself as the low risk provider of your product/


– The primary obstacle to buying anything is the fear of failure, the fear of making a mistake in the buying decision.

– Everything you do in a sales interview either raises/lowers the perception of risk and the fear of failure.

66. The law of Trust: The trust bond between the salesperson and the customer is the foundation of the successful sale.

– You build a high-trust sales relationship by asking questions aimed at determining the real needs of the customer that your

product/service can satisfy.

– Successful salespeople listen twice as much as they talk.

– No one ever listened themselves out of a sale.

– Listening builds trust.

67. The law of Relationships: All selling is ultimately relationship selling.

– The customer wants a relationship first.

– In complex sales, the relationship continues after the sale.

– The relationship is more important than the product/service.

68. The law of Friendship: A person will not buy from you until convinced that you are a friend and acting in his/her best


69. The law of Positioning: The customer’s perception of you and your company is his reality and determines his buying

behavior with you.

– Every visual element of dress, product, packaging, printing, and promotion creates a perception of some kind.

– Top salespeople position themselves as the preferred suppliers of their products/services.

70. The law of Perspective: The way that you are viewed by your customers determine your income.

– When you are viewed by your customer as working for him/her, you will be in the top 10% of money earners in the field.

– Top money earners in sales are viewed as consultants, helpers, counselors, and advisors to their customers, not as


71. The law of Advance Planning: The best salespeople prepare thoroughly before every call.

– The salesperson with the best knowledge of the customers’ real situation will be the one most likely to make the sale.

– Sales professionals plan their questions in advance.

– The power is on the side of the salesperson with the best notes.

72. The law of Perverse Motivation: Everyone likes to buy, but no one wants to be sold.

– The best salesperson is perceived as a helper who assists prospects in getting what they want and need.

– Top salespeople are teachers who show their customers how products and services work to satisfy their needs.

The Laws of Negotiating

73. The Universal Law of Negotiating: Everything is negotiable.

– Prices are best-guess estimate of what the customer will pay.

– Every price was set by someone and can therefore be changed by someone.

74: The law of Futurity: The purpose of a negotiation is to enter into an agreement such that both parties have their needs

satisfied and are motivated to fulfill their agreements and enter into further negotiations with the same party in the future.

75: The law of Win-Win or No Deal: In a successful negotiation, both parties should be fully satisfied with the result and feel

that they have each “won” or no deal should have been made at all.

76: The law of Unlimited Possibilities: You can always get a better deal if you know how.

– If you want a better deal, ask for it.

– Whatever the suggested price, react with surprise and disappointment.

– Always imply that you can do better somewhere else.

77. The law of Four: There are 4 main issues to be decided upon in any negotiation; everything else is dependent on these.

– Eighty percent or more of the content of the negotiation will revolve around these four issues.

– Of the four main issues in any negotiation, one will be the main issue and three will be secondary issues.

78: The law of Timing: Timing is everything in a negotiation.

– The more urgent the need, the less effective the negotiator.

– The person who allows him/her to be rushed will get the worst of the bargain.

– You resolve 80% of the vital issues of any negotiation in the last 20% of the time allocated for the negotiation.

79: The law of Terms: The terms of payment can be more important than the price in a negotiation.

– You can agree to almost any price if you can decide the terms.

– Never accept the first offer, no matter how good it sounds.

– Never reject an offer out of hand, no matter how unacceptable it sounds when you first hear it.

80: The law of Anticipation: 80% or more of your success in any negotiation will be determined by how well you prepare in


– Facts are everything

– Do your homework; one small detail can be all you need to succeed in a negotiation.

– Check your assumptions; incorrect assumptions lie at the root of most mistakes.

81. The law of Authority: You can negotiate successfully only with a person who has the authority to approve the terms &

conditions you agree upon.

– You must determine in advance if the other party has authority to make a deal.

– When dealing with someone who cannot make the final decision, you must represent yourself as also being unable to make

the final decision.

82. The law of Reversal: Putting yourself in the situation of the other person enables you to prepare and negotiate more


83. The law of Greater Power: The person with the greater power, real or imagined, will get a better deal in any negotiation.

– People will not negotiate with you unless they feel you have the power to help them or hurt them in some way.

– Power is a matter of perception; it is in the eye of the beholder.

Types of Power via:

1. Indifference

2. Scarcity

3. Authority

4. Courage

5. Commitment

6. Expertise

7. (Inside) Knowledge of the needs of others

8. Empathy

9. Rewarding/Punishing

10. Investment (time/money)

84. The law of Desire: The person who most wants the negotiation to succeed has the least bargaining power.

– No matter how badly you want something, you should appear neutral and detached.

– The more you can make the other party want it, the better deal you can get.

85. The law of Reciprocity: People have a deep subconscious need to reciprocate for anything that is done to or for them.

– The first party to make a concession is the party who wants the deal the most.

– Every concession you make in a negotiation should be matched by an equal or greater concession from the other party.

– Small concessions on small issues enable you to ask for large concessions on large issues.

86. The Walk Away Law: You don’t know the final price and terms until you get up and walk away.

– The power is on the side of the person who can walk away without flinching.

– Walking out of a negotiation is another form of negotiation.

87. The law of Finality: No negotiation is ever final.

– If you are not happy with the existing agreement, ask to reopen the negotiation.

– Use zero-based thinking on a regular basis by asking yourself, if I could negotiate this arrangement over again, would I agree

to the same terms?

The Laws of Time Management

88: The law of Clarity: The clearer you are about your goals & objectives, the more efficient & effective you will be in

achieving them.

a. Decide exactly what you want. Be specific.

b. Write it down – clearly – in detail.

c. Set a specific deadline.

d. Make a list of everything you need to do.

e. Organize this list into a plan.

f. Take action immediately.

g. Do something every day on the plan.

89. The law of Priorities: Your ability to set clear & accurate priorities on your time determines the entire quality of your life.

90. The law of Posteriori ties: Before you start something new, you must discontinue something old.

91. The law of the Most Valuable Asset: Your most valuable asset is your earning ability.

92. The law of Planning: Every minute spent in planning saves 10 minutes in execution.

93. The law of Rewards: Your rewards will always be determined by your results.

94. The law of Sequentiality: Time management enables you to control the sequence of events in your life.

95. The law of Leverage: Certain things you do enable you to accomplish vastly more that you would if you spent the same

amount of time in other activities.

96. The law of Timeliness: The ability to act faster than anyone else can be a greatest asset.

97. The law of Practice: Continuous practice of a key skill reduces the time required to perform the task & increases the

output achieved.

98. The law of Time Pressure: There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most

important things.

99. The law of Single Handing: The ability to start & complete your most important task determines your productivity more

than any other skill.

100. The law of Competence: You can increase your efficiency & your effectiveness by becoming better & better at your key tasks.

Are you suffering form severe low self-esteem? is an open dialogue, you are welcome to contribute via comments.

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Synonymous with Anonymous

Synonymous with Anonymous

Synonymous with Anonymous is a very inspiring true story. This is an amazing documentary about impact of one person on millions of lives being private and anonymous. Giving while living. A man with no car, one pair of shoes and a $15/watch. We have more than what we need is so true. Our standard of living is better than most people on the planet, yet we have trouble being grateful, craving, yearning, and are averse. Enjoy.

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One of the best yet hardest thing you will ever do for yourself

One of the best yet hardest thing you will ever do for yourself

This is one of the best yet hardest thing you will ever do for yourself.  In this age and time, we find ourselves pulled by many obligations and distractions. By no means, this will be an easy feat to try to get through the 11 videos on your own. However, I believe that anything is possible.

There are things that you find out that you feel compelled to share with your children, your loved ones and friends. This is one of those things for me.

Ideally, the best thing to do is to go and take the 10 day silence retreat to experience the process. They have worldwide locations including North America. It is free of charge and you can give donations afterwards. You can find out more at Dhamma.  You can also read my posts 10 days silence retreat and How To Stop My Mind From Thinking All The Time.

Mahatma Buddha’s the four noble truths are:

1. Life means suffering.

2. The origin of suffering is attachment.

3. The cessation of suffering is attainable.

4. The path to the cessation of suffering.

Day 1

Day 2

Day 3

Day 4

Day 5

Day 6

Day 7

Day 8

Day 9

Day 10

Day 11

I found liberation through these meditations and find it to be a great source of peace, insight and power.

May you be well.

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Wisdom of the ages Zavia by Ashfaq Ahmed

Wisdom of the ages Zavia by Ashfaq Ahmed

Wisdom of the ages Zavia by Ashfaq Ahmed

Part 1

Part 2

Watch other episodes on

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Living With Joy

Living With Joy

Living With Joy

“The future, higher evolution will belong to those who live in joy, who share joy, and who spread joy.”

— Torkom Saraydarian

Joy, as the energy of love, is the highest vibration on this planet. Everything in the universe is energy; it can be measured and reduced to vibrational frequencies. It’s a universal law that as we think and feel we vibrate, and as we vibrate we attract. When we are in the high joy vibration, we attract what is for our greater good.

The Ancient Egyptians saw Joy as a sacred responsibility. They believed that upon their death, the God Osiris would ask them two questions: “Did you bring Joy?” and “Did you find Joy?” Those who answered ‘yes’ could continue their journey into the afterlife.

For at least the next week or two, ask yourself these two questions each and every day: Did I bring joy? Did I find joy?

“Man loves because he is Love. He seeks Joy, for he is Joy. He thirsts for God for he is composed of God and he cannot exist without Him.”

— Sathya Sai Baba

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Impossible is not in my dictionary

Impossible is not in my dictionary

Impossible is not in my dictionary

Neil Gaiman Addresses the University of the Arts Class of 2012

Neil Gaiman Addresses the University of the Arts Class of 2012 from The University of the Arts (Phl) on Vimeo.

34th Commencement

May 17, 2012

I never really expected to find myself giving advice to people graduating from an establishment of higher education. I never graduated from any such establishment. I never even started at one. I escaped from school as soon as I could, when the prospect of four more years of enforced learning before I’d become the writer I wanted to be was stifling.

I got out into the world, I wrote, and I became a better writer the more I wrote, and I wrote some more, and nobody ever seemed to mind that I was making it up as I went along, they just read what I wrote and they paid for it, or they didn’t, and often they commissioned me to write something else for them.

Which has left me with a healthy respect and fondness for higher education that those of my friends and family, who attended Universities, were cured of long ago.

Looking back, I’ve had a remarkable ride. I’m not sure I can call it a career, because a career implies that I had some kind of career plan, and I never did. The nearest thing I had was a list I made when I was 15 of everything I wanted to do: to write an adult novel, a children’s book, a comic, a movie, record an audiobook, write an episode of Doctor Who… and so on. I didn’t have a career. I just did the next thing on the list.

So I thought I’d tell you everything I wish I’d known starting out, and a few things that, looking back on it, I suppose that I did know. And that I would also give you the best piece of advice I’d ever got, which I completely failed to follow.

First of all: When you start out on a career in the arts you have no idea what you are doing.

This is great. People who know what they are doing know the rules, and know what is possible and impossible. You do not. And you should not. The rules on what is possible and impossible in the arts were made by people who had not tested the bounds of the possible by going beyond them. And you can.

If you don’t know it’s impossible it’s easier to do. And because nobody’s done it before, they haven’t made up rules to stop anyone doing that again, yet.

Secondly, If you have an idea of what you want to make, what you were put here to do, then just go and do that.

And that’s much harder than it sounds and, sometimes in the end, so much easier than you might imagine. Because normally, there are things you have to do before you can get to the place you want to be. I wanted to write comics and novels and stories and films, so I became a journalist, because journalists are allowed to ask questions, and to simply go and find out how the world works, and besides, to do those things I needed to write and to write well, and I was being paid to learn how to write economically, crisply, sometimes under adverse conditions, and on time.

Sometimes the way to do what you hope to do will be clear cut, and sometimes it will be almost impossible to decide whether or not you are doing the correct thing, because you’ll have to balance your goals and hopes with feeding yourself, paying debts, finding work, settling for what you can get.

Something that worked for me was imagining that where I wanted to be – an author, primarily of fiction, making good books, making good comics and supporting myself through my words – was a mountain. A distant mountain. My goal.

And I knew that as long as I kept walking towards the mountain I would be all right. And when I truly was not sure what to do, I could stop, and think about whether it was taking me towards or away from the mountain. I said no to editorial jobs on magazines, proper jobs that would have paid proper money because I knew that, attractive though they were, for me they would have been walking away from the mountain. And if those job offers had come along earlier I might have taken them, because they still would have been closer to the mountain than I was at the time.

I learned to write by writing. I tended to do anything as long as it felt like an adventure, and to stop when it felt like work, which meant that life did not feel like work.

Thirdly, When you start off, you have to deal with the problems of failure. You need to be thickskinned, to learn that not every project will survive. A freelance life, a life in the arts, is sometimes like putting messages in bottles, on a desert island, and hoping that someone will find one of your bottles and open it and read it, and put something in a bottle that will wash its way back to you: appreciation, or a commission, or money, or love. And you have to accept that you may put out a hundred things for every bottle that winds up coming back.

The problems of failure are problems of discouragement, of hopelessness, of hunger. You want everything to happen and you want it now, and things go wrong. My first book – a piece of journalism I had done for the money, and which had already bought me an electric typewriter from the advance – should have been a bestseller. It should have paid me a lot of money. If the publisher hadn’t gone into involuntary liquidation between the first print run selling out and the second printing, and before any royalties could be paid, it would have done.

And I shrugged, and I still had my electric typewriter and enough money to pay the rent for a couple of months, and I decided that I would do my best in future not to write books just for the money. If you didn’t get the money, then you didn’t have anything. If I did work I was proud of, and I didn’t get the money, at least I’d have the work.

Every now and again, I forget that rule, and whenever I do, the universe kicks me hard and reminds me. I don’t know that it’s an issue for anybody but me, but it’s true that nothing I did where the only reason for doing it was the money was ever worth it, except as bitter experience. Usually I didn’t wind up getting the money, either. The things I did because I was excited, and wanted to see them exist in reality have never let me down, and I’ve never regretted the time I spent on any of them.

The problems of failure are hard.

The problems of success can be harder, because nobody warns you about them.

The first problem of any kind of even limited success is the unshakable conviction that you are getting away with something, and that any moment now they will discover you. It’s Imposter Syndrome, something my wife Amanda christened the Fraud Police.

In my case, I was convinced that there would be a knock on the door, and a man with a clipboard (I don’t know why he carried a clipboard, in my head, but he did) would be there, to tell me it was all over, and they had caught up with me, and now I would have to go and get a real job, one that didn’t consist of making things up and writing them down, and reading books I wanted to read. And then I would go away quietly and get the kind of job where you don’t have to make things up any more.

The problems of success. They’re real, and with luck you’ll experience them. The point where you stop saying yes to everything, because now the bottles you threw in the ocean are all coming back, and have to learn to say no.

I watched my peers, and my friends, and the ones who were older than me and watch how miserable some of them were: I’d listen to them telling me that they couldn’t envisage a world where they did what they had always wanted to do any more, because now they had to earn a certain amount every month just to keep where they were. They couldn’t go and do the things that mattered, and that they had really wanted to do; and that seemed as a big a tragedy as any problem of failure.

And after that, the biggest problem of success is that the world conspires to stop you doing the thing that you do, because you are successful. There was a day when I looked up and realised that I had become someone who professionally replied to email, and who wrote as a hobby. I started answering fewer emails, and was relieved to find I was writing much more.

Fourthly, I hope you’ll make mistakes. If you’re making mistakes, it means you’re out there doing something. And the mistakes in themselves can be useful. I once misspelled Caroline, in a letter, transposing the A and the O, and I thought, “Coraline looks like a real name…”

And remember that whatever discipline you are in, whether you are a musician or a photographer, a fine artist or a cartoonist, a writer, a dancer, a designer, whatever you do you have one thing that’s unique. You have the ability to make art.

And for me, and for so many of the people I have known, that’s been a lifesaver. The ultimate lifesaver. It gets you through good times and it gets you through the other ones.

Life is sometimes hard. Things go wrong, in life and in love and in business and in friendship and in health and in all the other ways that life can go wrong. And when things get tough, this is what you should do.

Make good art.

I’m serious. Husband runs off with a politician? Make good art. Leg crushed and then eaten by mutated boa constrictor? Make good art. IRS on your trail? Make good art. Cat exploded? Make good art. Somebody on the Internet thinks what you do is stupid or evil or it’s all been done before? Make good art. Probably things will work out somehow, and eventually time will take the sting away, but that doesn’t matter. Do what only you do best. Make good art.

Make it on the good days too.

And Fifthly, while you are at it, make your art. Do the stuff that only you can do.

The urge, starting out, is to copy. And that’s not a bad thing. Most of us only find our own voices after we’ve sounded like a lot of other people. But the one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.

The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. That’s the moment you may be starting to get it right.

The things I’ve done that worked the best were the things I was the least certain about, the stories where I was sure they would either work, or more likely be the kinds of embarrassing failures people would gather together and talk about until the end of time. They always had that in common: looking back at them, people explain why they were inevitable successes. While I was doing them, I had no idea.

I still don’t. And where would be the fun in making something you knew was going to work?

And sometimes the things I did really didn’t work. There are stories of mine that have never been reprinted. Some of them never even left the house. But I learned as much from them as I did from the things that worked.

Sixthly. I will pass on some secret freelancer knowledge. Secret knowledge is always good. And it is useful for anyone who ever plans to create art for other people, to enter a freelance world of any kind. I learned it in comics, but it applies to other fields too. And it’s this:

People get hired because, somehow, they get hired. In my case I did something which these days would be easy to check, and would get me into trouble, and when I started out, in those pre-internet days, seemed like a sensible career strategy: when I was asked by editors who I’d worked for, I lied. I listed a handful of magazines that sounded likely, and I sounded confident, and I got jobs. I then made it a point of honour to have written something for each of the magazines I’d listed to get that first job, so that I hadn’t actually lied, I’d just been chronologically challenged… You get work however you get work.

People keep working, in a freelance world, and more and more of today’s world is freelance, because their work is good, and because they are easy to get along with, and because they deliver the work on time. And you don’t even need all three. Two out of three is fine. People will tolerate how unpleasant you are if your work is good and you deliver it on time. They’ll forgive the lateness of the work if it’s good, and if they like you. And you don’t have to be as good as the others if you’re on time and it’s always a pleasure to hear from you.

When I agreed to give this address, I started trying to think what the best advice I’d been given over the years was.

And it came from Stephen King twenty years ago, at the height of the success of Sandman. I was writing a comic that people loved and were taking seriously. King had liked Sandman and my novel with Terry Pratchett, Good Omens, and he saw the madness, the long signing lines, all that, and his advice was this:

“This is really great. You should enjoy it.”

And I didn’t. Best advice I got that I ignored.Instead I worried about it. I worried about the next deadline, the next idea, the next story. There wasn’t a moment for the next fourteen or fifteen years that I wasn’t writing something in my head, or wondering about it. And I didn’t stop and look around and go, this is really fun. I wish I’d enjoyed it more. It’s been an amazing ride. But there were parts of the ride I missed, because I was too worried about things going wrong, about what came next, to enjoy the bit I was on.

That was the hardest lesson for me, I think: to let go and enjoy the ride, because the ride takes you to some remarkable and unexpected places.

And here, on this platform, today, is one of those places. (I am enjoying myself immensely.)

To all today’s graduates: I wish you luck. Luck is useful. Often you will discover that the harder you work, and the more wisely you work, the luckier you get. But there is luck, and it helps.

We’re in a transitional world right now, if you’re in any kind of artistic field, because the nature of distribution is changing, the models by which creators got their work out into the world, and got to keep a roof over their heads and buy sandwiches while they did that, are all changing. I’ve talked to people at the top of the food chain in publishing, in bookselling, in all those areas, and nobody knows what the landscape will look like two years from now, let alone a decade away. The distribution channels that people had built over the last century or so are in flux for print, for visual artists, for musicians, for creative people of all kinds.

Which is, on the one hand, intimidating, and on the other, immensely liberating. The rules, the assumptions, the now-we’re supposed to’s of how you get your work seen, and what you do then, are breaking down. The gatekeepers are leaving their gates. You can be as creative as you need to be to get your work seen. YouTube and the web (and whatever comes after YouTube and the web) can give you more people watching than television ever did. The old rules are crumbling and nobody knows what the new rules are.

So make up your own rules.

Someone asked me recently how to do something she thought was going to be difficult, in this case recording an audio book, and I suggested she pretend that she was someone who could do it. Not pretend to do it, but pretend she was someone who could. She put up a notice to this effect on the studio wall, and she said it helped.

So be wise, because the world needs more wisdom, and if you cannot be wise, pretend to be someone who is wise, and then just behave like they would.

And now go, and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here. Make good art.

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How to be courageous

How to be courageous

How to be courageous?

When the price is high or the motivation is strong, you will jump and do anything.

If you want to be courageous, find out your why and infuse it with emotions.
Courage will come natually.

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How to change your inner programming

How to change your inner programming

How to change your inner programming?

No matter what our achievements might be, we think well of ourselves only in rare moments. We need people to bear witness against our inner judge, who keeps book on our shortcomings and transgressions. We need people to convince us that we are not as bad as we think we are.” Eric Hoffer

How to get rid of that little voice and monkey mind?

Take 4 sheets of blank paper and put A on top of two and B on top of the other two.

  1. On Sheet A – Make a written statement exactly how you are living right now? Even right the negatives and look at it the way it is. Unhappy, sick and broke. Write it in complete detail. If you don’t recognize the problem, you are never going to change it. That is the way it is.
  2. Take one blank page and write A on top of it and on a second blank page write B. Write on top of B, I am so happy and grateful that…Describe how you want to live. May take you a while to do this. You can involve your family. Health, body, money, trips and who do you want to associate with.  Environment is more important than heredity in determining intellectual growth. I don’t want to spend time with anyone who see me as special. If they don’t think that I am special, they don’t think that they are. Don’t worry about how. Write down in present tense in as much detail as you can A, B how much money you want. Everyone wants time and money freedom. Passive income should take care of your life style. 1% of population earns 96% of the money that is earned.
  3. Write and sign and read the following commitment “My signature represents my irrevocable commitment to view this program, to read these positive statements, to make a paradigm shift everyday for the next 90 days.” Write it in present tense and sign it and read it every day for 90 days. Take the As your present living situation and your financial situation and burn it. Then take B sheets and read it over and over. Gerta said Over and over and over and over and over, like a monkey with a miniature cymbal, the joy of repetition really is in you. Under and under and under and under and under, the smell of repetition really is on you and when i feel this way i really am with you. Before you can do something, you must be it. Everything that happens outside, it must happen inside first.
    The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.

In times of change learners inherit the earth; while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.” Eric Hoffer (Book: The true believer)

Steve Boltz said God’s gift to us is more talent and ability than we will ever hope to use in our lifetime and our gift to God is to develop that talent and gift in this lifetime.

Bill Gates  said that we don’t have an option to turning away from the future.
Bob Proctor calls it Shift

Know thyself?

How to develop our mind?

Repetition of ideas is where understanding develops.

Paradigms are formed through repetition and that is how we must change it. Develop understanding through study. Solomen said that in all your getting, get understanding. Where there is no vision, people will perish.

Joel Barker in his book On Paradigms, “To ignore the power of paradigm to influence your judgement to put yourself at risk when exploring the future.”

Take a pen decree with absolute certainty what my life is going to be like, where I am going to go and what I am going to do.

We think in pictures closet, fridge, garage, bedroom, washroom, front door and now go to the mind. No cells of recognition of the mind, it is not the brain.

Very few people have an image for the mind. Mind is movement and body is the manifestation of that movement. The mind uses the brain, it activate brain cells.

We are mind and body.








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Do we really ever learn from our mistakes

Do we really ever learn from our mistakes

Do we really ever learn from our mistakes?

There has been so many times that I have been lied to and yet I still refuse to give up believing in people.
I feel scared, gun shy and doubtful.
I approach with caution, yet I still believe.
Over and over again, people have lied.

First time, someone takes advantage of me, it is their fault
Second time, it is mine

Do we really ever learn from our mistakes?

Autobiography in Five Short Chapters

by Portia Nelson

I. I walk down the street

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in, I am lost…I am helpless.

It isn’t my fault.

It takes me forever to find my way out.

II. I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it, I fall in again.

I can’t believe I’m in the same place.

But it isn’t my fault.

It still takes me a long time to get out.

III. I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it there, I still fall in…It’s a habit.

My eyes are open.

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

IV. I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

V. I walk down another street.

Do we really ever learn from our mistakes is an open dialogue, please feel free to comment below.

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There is an angle leaning over every blade of grass whispering grow grow

There is an angle leaning over every blade of grass whispering grow grow

There is an angle leaning over every blade of grass whispering grow grow.

Starting South Asian Women Network TV, I and others thought that perhaps I have lost all my marbles.

There did not seem to rhyme and reason for those contented South Asian women who have husbands earning money, homes and children. What else could they possibly ask for? What else could they wish for? What else could they hope for?

Perhaps, it is the end of their desire.

However, the following is true for me:

“There’s an angel leaning over every blade of grass whispering, “Grow, grow.” The Talmud Yes. And a blade of grass will press through cement seeking the light.

I insist and ask my sisters, mothers, daughters and cousins to join me in a project to grow as human beings.

You may have heard the saying if you are not growing, you are dying.

Desire is half of life; indifference is half of death.” Kahlil Gibran

So as much as you might be content with your life, it is not a bad idea to learn something, challenge yourself and strive for something. You will be a better person for it and truly living for yourself and others.

Dr. Ken McFarland who said, “Two percent of the people think, three percent think they think and 95% would actually rather die than think.”
Law of thinking by Bob Proctor

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