Category: 9. Adversity
Do not give up the fight

Do not give up the fight

Do not give up the fight
Get up stand up stand up for your rights, do not give up the fight Bob Marley

Get up, stand up, stand up for your right (3 times)
Get up, stand up, don’t give up the fight

Preacher man don’t tell me heaven is under the earth
I know you don’t know what life is really worth
Is not all that glitters in gold and
Half the story has never been told
So now you see the light, aay
Stand up for your right. Come on

Get up, stand up, stand up for your right
Get up, stand up, don’t give up the fight
(Repeat)

Most people think great God will come from the sky
Take away ev’rything, and make ev’rybody feel high
But if you know what life is worth

You would look for yours on earth
And now you see the light
You stand up for your right, yeah!

Get up, stand up, stand up for your right
Get up, stand up, don’t give up the fight
Get up, stand up. Life is your right
So we can’t give up the fight
Stand up for your right, Lord, Lord
Get up, stand up. Keep on struggling on
Don’t give up the fight

We’re sick and tired of your ism and skism game
Die and go to heaven in Jesus’ name, Lord
We know when we understand
Almighty God is a living man
You can fool some people sometimes
But you can’t fool all the people all the time
So now we see the light
We gonna stand up for our right

So you’d better get up, stand up, stand up for your right
Get up, stand up, don’t give up the fight
Get up, stand up, stand up for your right
Get up, stand up, don’t give up the fight

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Failure is not an option

Failure is not an option

Failure is not an option

This is sad, but inspirational and a great lesson not to never give up:

“99% of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses, (blaming or stopping to take action).” George Washington Carver

Acknowledge, give Credit and to Celebrate your successes.

Mongolian Warriors used to take their families and possessions with them to wars. Never took their eyes off the prize until the end or they stood to lose everything and get annihilated completely. They won all wars because there was no other option. Imagine if they coasted!

You must have also heard about burning all bridges or ships in order to have no way to retreat.

“Failures are expected by losers, ignored by winners.” Joe Gibbs

Why

Failure is not an option. Over, under, around, and through, whatever it takes will do. It does not have to be perfect.

“One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat.” Napoleon Hill

Having enough courage to take the first step and then keep going and never give up.

Self-discipline does not come without experiencing failure, and the only way to defeat failure is through persistence and perseverance.

 

Abraham Lincoln failed so many times, but never gave up

1831- Failed in business – declared bankruptcy.

1832- Defeated for State Legislature.

1834- Again failed in business – declares bankruptcy.

1835- Fiancée dies.

1836- Has a nervous breakdown.

1837- Defeated in election.

1843- Defeated in bid for U.S. Congress.

1846- Again defeated for U.S. Congress.

1847- Fails for a third time in bid for U.S. Congress.

1855- Defeated for U.S. Senate.

1856- Defeated for office of Vice President.

1858- Again defeated for U.S. Senate.

1859- Elected President of the United States of America.

 

“The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want now.” Zig Ziglar

Resolve to never ever give up, devote yourself to your goal, and become fierce at the end to reach the finish line.

When things get hard, that is when we learn. Accept failures as a part of life. If you play in the rain, you are bound to get wet.

The story goes that “Thomas Edison failed more than 1,000 times when trying to create the light bulb”. When asked about it,

Edison allegedly said, “I have not failed 1,000 times. I have successfully discovered 1,000 ways to NOT make a light bulb.”
“Having conceived of his purpose, a man should mentally mark out a straight pathway to its achievement, looking neither to the right nor the left. Doubts and fears should be rigorously excluded; they are disintegrating elements which break up the straight line of effort, rendering it crooked, ineffectual, useless. Thoughts of doubt and fear never accomplish anything, and never can. They always lead to failure. Purpose, energy, power to do, and all strong thoughts cease when doubt and fear creep in”.
To put away aimlessness and weakness, and to begin to think with purpose, is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment; who make all conditions serve them, and who think strongly, attempt fearlessly, and accomplish masterfully.” James Allen

“I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.”

“The prizes of life are at the end of each journey, not near the beginning; and it is not given to me to know how many steps are necessary in order to reach my goal. Failure I may still encounter at the thousandth step, yet success hides behind the next bend in the road. Never will I know how close it lies unless I turn the corner.” Og Mandino

As a South Asian woman, if you fall down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep going no matter what.

Failure is not an option

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Adversity: Slump, dump & up/down

Nietzche on Hardship

How to survive a disaster?

Part 1

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“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

Thanks to topdocumentaries.com

“Things don’t always turn out the way you imagined. Life deals you a hand and no matter what cards you are holding you have to play them. And honey, it is hard, and it never stops being hard. But you learn, and you change, and you grow. And even in my darkest moments I remind myself – it’s the reason we are all here. So you got fired, so you’re back down at the bottom again. It could be worse. so get back up and keep fighting.” — Being Erica S02E11

Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

This is a prepared text of the Commencement address delivered by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, on June 12, 2005.

35. The law of Courage : The ability to make decisions and act boldly in the face of setbacks and adversity is the key to greatness in leadership.

43. The law of Emotional Maturity : Leaders are calm, cool, and controlled in the face of problems, difficulties and adversity.

100 laws of life by Brian Tracy

 

This is a tribute to a very strong woman who does not know how wonderful she is. Sometimes, it is difficult for us to see and realize that how powerful we are. Especially, when we are not doing that well financially and rest of the world seems to bring us down further. This story below is dedicated to those who are facing adversity in their life:

May you be coffee beans!

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee…You will never look at a cup of
coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how
things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make
it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It
seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and
placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she
placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she
placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a
word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the
carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and
placed them in a bowl.

Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asks, “Tell me what you see.”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did
and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to
take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the
hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter
smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What does
it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in
strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the
boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile.
Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after
sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The
ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling
water, they had changed the
water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with
pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the
heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a
financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and
stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and
tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water,
the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it
releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things
are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you
elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you
a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

If something bad happens like an accident on our journey, a person needs to keep going because our spirit is strong and heart forgiving. Dust yourself off and just keep going. Sometimes there are lessons hidden in our adversity of humility, courage and inner strength.

Overcoming Adversity

 

 

Think about a novel or movie that you found engaging. Why was it so? Conflict. Conflict makes a story interesting, it moves the story forward, engages the reader/viewer, causes the protagonist to stretch, grow, take risks.
Adversity is good—as long as you move through it to the other side.

 

There are many types of adversity. Check the ones you’re dealing with now:

 

  • Human vs. Human
  • Human vs. Society
  • Human vs. Self
  • Human vs. Nature
  • Human vs. Universal Force/God/Higher Self

 

The GREAT news is that the only problem you’ll ever have is YOU. The BETTER news is that YOU have all the solutions too. What you think and feel creates your world.

 

Here are some tools for moving through each one:

 

Human vs. Human:

When struggling with others it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with this person? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself with the other: see the two of you as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with the other: consider how you might react in their situation, with their point of view, their potentially limiting beliefs. Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

Human vs. Society:

When struggling with society and societal mores and conditioning, it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with society? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself with society: see both society and you as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with the other: consider how you might react in society’s situation, with its prevalent point of view and potentially limiting beliefs. Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

 

Human vs. Self:

When struggling with yourself, it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with myself? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself: see the parts of yourself that are in conflict as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with the other part of yourself: consider how you might react were you to change places with the part of yourself you’re struggling with, consider its prevalent point of view and potentially limiting beliefs. Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

 

Human vs. Nature:

When struggling with nature, it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with nature? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself with nature: see both nature and yourself as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with nature: consider how you might react in nature’s situation, with its need to preserve itself and its force that humans sometimes cannot understand. Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

Human vs. God/Universal Force/Higher Self (insert your preferred term here)

When struggling with God, it helps to do some self-inquiry followed by a two-step process.

 

Self-Inquiry:

Why am I struggling with God? Is that the real reason? What’s the benefit for me to cling to that reason? Can I let that reason go?

 

Two-step process:

1)    Equalize yourself with God: see both of you as equal, neither one is above/below, good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse. Feels better, doesn’t it?

 

2)    Exchange yourself with the other: consider how you might react in God’s situation, this may be a stretch, but give it a shot! Increases compassion a little, doesn’t it?

 

Remember: The GREAT news is that the only problem you’ll ever have is YOU. The BETTER news is that YOU have all the solutions too. What you think and feel creates your world.

-Christine Comaford-Lynch’s book Rules for Renegades

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