Category: 1. Relating to yourself
Ten Permissions that you can give yourself

Ten Permissions that you can give yourself

Ten Permissions that you can give yourselfGive yourself permission to understand that we live in a bubble universe and we only experience what is in our own heads. Our world is different from every other human and animal on the planet. We are unique and how we experience the world is unique to us.

Give yourself permission to believe nothing, not anyone else’s story nor your own story. All the stories we tell ourselves are lies and nothing is really true. It’s just our stories. Take nothing anyone says to you or about you personally as they are talking about you. They are talking about a character in their story, a character that is not you. They can never really know you nor know who or what you really are.

Give yourself permission to transform what your judge says into something that you no longer believe. Your judge has been lying to you all your life. All the judgments about you, about you are not good enough not smart enough or not perfect enough are lies the judge has told you.

Give your self permision to understand what you call thinking is the judge talking-that it is NOT YOU! You can have the judge work for you or against you. There is no in-between. You must require the judge to give only resppect and love-and even then do not believe it.

Give yourself permisison to watch your life movie in the theatre of your mind an dsee it as it truly is, an illusion that you have made up, simply as story. That what you think happened is not real. It is only your story of what happened. Others will have other stories an dnone of them are true.

Give yourself permission to decide how you want to re-write your story. What do you want to ben in your story and what kind of experiences would you like if you could wite your own story. Giv eyourself permission to write this new sotry and to be willing and courageous enough to have what you really want.

Give yourself permssion to know that you are pure life force writing the book of your life and that you can change your own character in the story. Be this new person, and do not think it too difficult or impossible to become this person. Know that you are the main character I nyour book of life and because it’s only a store, you can recreate your character any way you want her to be.

Give yourself permission to undertand that emotions are reactions to your judge. First your judge and then you feel an emotion from that judgement. There is nothing wrong with feeling emotions. Only strive to feel emotions from what is real, that which is being.  And remember all negative emotions come from our belief in our judgements.

Give yourslef permission to be what you want to be and to do what you want to do. Do not believe your own rules. The judge made them and the rules you have about what you can and can’t do are no more real than your story.

Give yourself permission to understand that Self Love-Abundance. To the amount that you love yourself create abundance. Begin to love yourself so much you are willing to give yourself everything.

Source:  Unknown

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How to see yourself as special

How to see yourself as special

How to see yourself as special?

Pencil and U will show you how to see yourself as special.

The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box.

“There are 5 things you need to know,” he told the pencil, “Before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be.”

“One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in Someone’s hand.”

“Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you’ll need it to become a better pencil.”

“Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.”

“Four: The most important part of you will always be what’s inside.”

“And Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write.”

The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.

Now replacing the place of the pencil with you.  Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in God’s hand. And allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts you possess.

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems in life, but you’ll need it to become a stronger person.

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.

Four: The most important part of you will always be what’s on the inside.

And Five: On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark. No matter what the situation, you must continue to do your duties.

Allow this parable on the pencil to encourage you to know that you are a special person and only you can fulfill the purpose to which you were born to accomplish.

Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think that your life is insignificant and cannot make a change.

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Importance of Valuing Yourself

Importance of Valuing Yourself

“Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are.” -Jo Blackwell-Preston

In a vast majority of South Asian families, children are seen, but not heard.  In extreme cases, parents encourage children to not spend time around adults.

Your basic needs are met, but you are not spoken with respect, care and consideration.

If you feel that you are not important, you have to start with basic assertions as to you exist, you matter and your life has a meaning.

Do you often come across, when you are speaking and nobody is listening?

It is easy to have people devalue you unless you assert your own value.

If you believe in the importance of valuing yourself, you will find ways to assert it.

Come, come, whoever you are.
Wanderer, Worshipper, lover of leaving.
It doesn’t matter.
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vow a hundred times.
Come, yet again, come, come.
– Rumi

Forgive yourself and be merciful to yourself in valuing yourself.

Here are some suggestions as to what you can do, if you are feeling devalued:

  • Say less than necessary
  • Take a step back and look at the situation
  • Put distance between yourself and the person who is putting you down
  • Limit your communication with the person
  • Look at your behaviour to see what promotes this behaviour and refrain from it i.e., over communication
  • You don’t have to understand what is going on with that person to take action
  • Disagree with people’s valuation of you
  • Build yourself from inside being true to your self and working on yourself to have impeccable integrity
  • See yourself as a process where you are learning, growing and contributing
  • Picture yourself as a house under construction while you are living in it
  • Self-compassion is important where you forgive yourself for your own imperfections, shortcomings and mistakes
  • Love yourself and hold yourself in a high regard
  • Take good care of your body, appearance and energy
  • Carry yourself royally

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.” -Albert Einstein

In addition you can use affirmations as:

I am important
I value myself
I respect myself
I am holding the floor

Act it until you make it. Even if you are not feeling it, picture yourself as a sheep wearing a lion’s skin and go out in the world.

Here are some quotations about the importance of valuing yourself:

Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself. -Robert Collier

I wish I could show you, When you are lonely or in darkness, The astonishing light of your own being. -Hafiz

Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in love, in sex, in parenting, in every important aspect of existence – and how high he or she is likely to rise. The reputation you have with yourself – your self-esteem – is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life.
~Nathaniel Branden

Having a low opinion of yourself is not “modesty”. It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not “egotism”. It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success. ~Bobbe Sommer

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection. ~Buddha

Of all the judgements we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.

~Nathaniel Branden

Appreciation and self-love are the most important tools that you could ever nurture. Appreciation of others, and the appreciation of yourself is the closest vibrational match to your Source Energy of anything that we’ve ever witnessed anywhere in the Universe. ~Abraham

A story about importance of valuing yourself

A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, he asked. “Who would like this $20 bill?”

Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you, but first, let me do this.”

He proceeded to crumple the 20 dollar note up. He then asked. “Who still wants it?” Still the hands were up in the air.

“Well,” he replied, “what if I do this?” He dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?”

Still the hands went into the air.

“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless; but no matter what happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE.

You are special, don’t ever forget it.”

Author Unknown

Also read blog: How do you relate to yourself?/You are your own star

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How do you relate to yourself?

How do you relate to yourself?

You are your own star

How do you relate to yourself?

Do you give yourself respect, love and the support that you seek from others?

Do you make self honoring choices?

Are you your own best friend?

Do you give yourself compassion and understanding that you would to a best friend?

Have you given up on life too soon?

Your own treatment of yourself is a big indicator of how you are with other people.

Importance of being true to your own self (Random thoughts & quotations)

“There’s a crack on everything… that’s how the light gets in…” Leonard Cohen”

“There is nothing wrong with your television set. Do not attempt to adjust the picture. We are controlling transmission. If we wish to make it louder, we will bring up the volume. If we wish to make it softer, we will tune it to a whisper. We will control the horizontal. We will control the vertical. We can roll the image, make it flutter. We can change the focus to a soft blur or sharpen it to crystal clarity. For the next hour sit quietly and we will control all that you see and hear. We repeat: there is nothing wrong with your television set. You are about to participate in a great adventure. You are about to experience the awe and mystery which reaches from the inner mind to…” -The Outer Limits.
All you need is within you right now.
That’s just the way I am – you can change anytime you want.
Don’t ever forget that you are unique. Be your best self and not an imitation of someone else.
Find your strengths and use them in a positive way. Don’t listen to those who ridicule the choices you make.
Travel the road that you have chosen by yourself, for yourself and don’t look back with regret. You have to take chances to make your dreams happen.
Remember that there is plenty of time to travel another road – and still another – in your journey through life.
Take the time to find the route that is right for you. You will learn something valuable from every trip you take, so don’t be afraid to make mistakes.
Tell yourself that you’re okay just the way you are. Make friends who respect your true self.
Take the time to be alone, too, so you can know just how terrific your own company can be.
Remember that being alone doesn’t always mean being lonely; it can be a beautiful experience of finding your creativity, your heartfelt feelings, and the calm and quiet peace deep inside you.

Don’t ever forget that you are special and you have within you the ability to make your dreams come true. Unknown

“I am enough
I do enough
I have enough” Christine Comaford-Lynch

You-true to yourself, responsibility, thoughts
The hardest and most wonderful thing about being alive…no matter how
much you learn, grow or change, you’re never done.” – Being Erica
“When you’re a kid, being grown up looks so easy. Nobody tells you it’s harder than it looks, that those feelings that you have that you don’t measure up, that you’re not keeping pace…they never go away. What do you do when you feel like you’re the only kid in a room full of adults? Well, the only thing you can do. You smile. You step up. You try your best to fit in.” Erica, S1E5
“There comes a point when you realize, truth is this, being grown up is simply knowing who you are and having the courage to be that person.”
“Seems most of the time we walk around with the world on mute, but when you’re on the cusp of something dramatic and maybe life-changing, it’s like a filter comes off. Suddenly, everything comes alive and even the smallest moment is a view of a magical possibility. And you think, this is the night when you drop your mask and reveal your true self. This is the night when everything is rewritten.” Erica, S1E4
“Most of us think we know ourselves pretty well, our hopes, dreams, desires, we cling so tightly to the stories we tell ourselves not realising, that what we should do is let go,let go of the belief that we are invencible, let go the idea that we can’t do it on our own, let go of the fairy tale, because if we don’t let go, how can we move forward?” – Erica Strange
“Learn to be what you are, and learn to resign, with good grace, all that you are not”. Henry Frederick Emile
“Your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. Your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it. You presume you are a small entity, but within you is enfolded the entire Universe. You are indeed the Evident Book, by whose alphabet the Hidden becomes Manifest. Therefore you have no need to look beyond yourself. What you seek is within you, if only you reflect”. Mevlana Rumi
“To be nobody-but-yourself — in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else — means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”
e. e. cummings
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” E.E. Cummings
“We are not here to be someone else or just to be with someone else. We’re here to be ourselves, to make our unique contributions to the world. Determining to live your life to the fullest, to follow your dreams and express yourself is the greatest gift you can give to those you love—and to yourself.” Lawrence G. Boldt
Somewhere along the line you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you’re no good; and when things got hard you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!
Now if you know what you’re worth than go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers sayin’ you ain’t what you wanna be because of him or her or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!
Until you start believing in yourself, you ain’t gonna have a life. Movie-Rocky Balboa

No one’s ever stuck anywhere. You are where you need to be right now and when you finish doing whatever it is that you’re meant to be doing, then you move on. If life’s journey be endless, where is it’s goal? The answer is, it’s everywhere.
“Every wall is a door” -Emerson
They say the greatest mistake is giving up, that true strength lies in the will to keep trying, keep hoping things will get better, keep reminding yourself all you’ve accomplished, keep everything in perspective, keep up the fight, because at the end of the day, that’s what your left with, the knowledge that you did your best and that you’ll wake up tomorrow and try again
‘ Some things are true, whether we want them to be or not. thoughts become words, words become actions, actions become habits and habits become destiny. it’s a hard thing to look deep down and examine character, will we do the right thing even when no one is looking? when its not convenient, when it’s really hard, will we do the right thing simply because we have to? because it’s who we are. Because it’s right.
Life, they say is a series of moments big and small, joyous and tragic. it is these moments that give our lives shape and meaning that call us to examine the path we’ve taken and what the future holds.
“Sometimes the only way to move forward is to stop moving, to stand still, and decide no matter what happens, no matter how much it hurts, your exactly where you need to be.”
“What do you do when a piece of your life is suddenly missing? When you know were suppose to move on, but how? How do you move on when there is a hole in your life that needs fixed?”
“Most of us think we know ourselves pretty well. Our hopes, dreams, desires. We cling so tightly to the stories we tell ourselves. Not realizing that what we really should do is let go. Let go of the belief that we’re invincible, let go of the idea we can’t do it on our own. Let go of the Fairy Tale. Because if we don’t let go, how can we move forward?”

“Courage is not the towering oak that sees storms come and go; it is the fragile blossom that opens in the snow.” -Alice M. Swaim
Life, they say, can turn on a dime. We spend days, weeks, months, trudging through the darkness and suddenly, something shifts and we wake up to light and hope and the promise of a better day.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. Commencement address delivered by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, on June 12, 2005.
“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race” – Calvin Coolidge

 

A man has to live with himself, and he should see to it that he always has good company. –Charles Evans Hughes

What kind of relationship do you have with yourself?

Do you love yourself?

Do you forgive yourself?

Do you give yourself what you seek in the world?

What type of reputation do you have with yourself?

Do you take yourself seriously?

Do keep your own word with yourself?

Do you respect yourself?

Do you visit the child within you?

Do you meet your own needs?

Do you live integrity with yourself?

Would you do the right thing, even if nobody is looking, when it is not convenient?

When it is really hard

Would you do the right things simply because you have to?

Because that is who we are

Because it is right
– Unknown

Don’t compromise yourself. It’s all you’ve got.
– Janis Joplin

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde

“You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore”
- Christopher Columbus
“There’s a crack on everything… that’s how the light gets in…” Leonard Cohen”

“There is nothing wrong with your television set. Do not attempt to adjust the picture. We are controlling transmission. If we wish to make it louder, we will bring up the volume. If we wish to make it softer, we will tune it to a whisper. We will control the horizontal. We will control the vertical. We can roll the image, make it flutter. We can change the focus to a soft blur or sharpen it to crystal clarity. For the next hour sit quietly and we will control all that you see and hear. We repeat: there is nothing wrong with your television set. You are about to participate in a great adventure. You are about to experience the awe and mystery which reaches from the inner mind to… The Outer Limits.”

All you need is within you right now.

That’s just the way I am – you can change anytime you want.

Don’t ever forget that you are unique. Be your best self and not an imitation of someone else.

Find your strength and use them in a positive way. Don’t listen to those who ridicule the choices you make.

Travel the road that you have chosen and don’t look back with regret. You have to take chances to make your dreams happen.

Remember that there is plenty of time to travel another road – and still another – in your journey through life.

Take the time to find the route that is right for you. You will learn something valuable from every trip you take, so don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

Tell yourself that you’re okay just the way you are. Make friends who respect your true self.

Take the time to be alone, too, so you can know just how terrific your own company can be.

Remember that being alone doesn’t always mean being lonely; it can be a beautiful experience of finding your creativity, your heartfelt feelings, and the calm and quiet peace deep inside you.

Don’t ever forget that you are special and you have within you the ability to make your dreams come true. Unknown

“I am enough

I do enough

I have enough” Christine Comaford-Lynch

You-true to yourself, responsibility, thoughts

The hardest and most wonderful thing about being alive…no matter how
much you learn, grow or change, you’re never done.” – Erica

“When you’re a kid, being grown up looks so easy. Nobody tells you it’s harder than it looks, that those feelings that you have that you don’t measure up, that you’re not keeping pace…they never go away. What do you do when you feel like you’re the only kid in a room full of adults? Well, the only thing you can do. You smile. You step up. You try your best to fit in.” Erica, S1E5

“There comes a point when you realize, truth is this, being grown up is simply knowing who you are and having the courage to be that person.”

“Seems most of the time we walk around with the world on mute, but when you’re on the cusp of something dramatic and maybe life-changing, it’s like a filter comes off. Suddenly, everything comes alive and even the smallest moment is a view of a magical possibility. And you think, this is the night when you drop your mask and reveal your true self. This is the night when everything is rewritten.” Erica, S1E4

“Most of us think we know ourselves pretty well, our hopes, dreams, desires, we cling so tightly to the stories we tell ourselves not realising, that what we should do is let go,let go of the belief that we are invencible, let go the idea that we can’t do it on our own, let go of the fairy tale, because if we don’t let go, how can we move forward?” – Erica Strange

“Learn to be what you are, and learn to resign, with good grace, all that you are not”. Henry Frederick Emile

“Your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. Your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it. You presume you are a small entity, but within you is enfolded the entire Universe. You are indeed the Evident Book, by whose alphabet the Hidden becomes Manifest. Therefore you have no need to look beyond yourself. What you seek is within you, if only you reflect”. Mevlana Rumi

“To be nobody-but-yourself — in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else — means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”
e. e. cummings

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” E.E. Cummings

We are not here to be someone else or just to be with someone else. We’re here to be ourselves, to make our unique contributions to the world. Determining to live your life to the fullest, to follow your dreams and express yourself is the greatest gift you can give to those you love—and to yourself. Lawrence G. Boldt

Somewhere along the line you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you’re no good; and when things got hard you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!

Now if you know what you’re worth than go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers sayin’ you ain’t what you wanna be because of him or her or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!

Until you start believing in yourself, you ain’t gonna have a life. Movie-Rocky Balboa

No one’s ever stuck anywhere. You are where you need to be right now and when you finish doing whatever it is that you’re meant to be doing, then you move on. If life’s journey be endless, where is it’s goal? The answer is, it’s everywhere.

“Every wall is a door” -Emerson

They say the greatest mistake is giving up, that true strength lies in the will to keep trying, keep hoping things will get better, keep reminding yourself all you’ve accomplished, keep everything in perspective, keep up the fight, because at the end of the day, that’s what your left with, the knowledge that you did your best and that you’ll wake up tomorrow and try again

‘ Some things are true, whether we want them to be or not. thoughts become words, words become actions, actions become habits and habits become destiny. it’s a hard thing to look deep down and examine character, will we do the right thing even when no one is looking? when its not convenient, when it’s really hard, will we do the right thing simply because we have to? because it’s who we are. Because it’s right. ‘

Life, they say is a series of moments big and small, joyous and tragic. it is these moments that give our lives shape and meaning that call us to examine the path we’ve taken and what the future holds.

“Sometimes the only way to move forward is to stop moving, to stand still, and decide no matter what happens, no matter how much it hurts, your exactly where you need to be.”

“What do you do when a piece of your life is suddenly missing? When you know were suppose to move on, but how? How do you move on when there is a hole in your life that needs fixed?”

“Most of us think we know ourselves pretty well. Our hopes, dreams, desires. We cling so tightly to the stories we tell ourselves. Not realizing that what we really should do is let go. Let go of the belief that we’re invincible, let go of the idea we can’t do it on our own. Let go of the Fairy Tale. Because if we don’t let go, how can we move forward?”

“Courage is not the towering oak that sees storms come and go; it is the fragile blossom that opens in the snow.” -Alice M. Swaim

Life, they say, can turn on a dime. We spend days, weeks, months, trudging through the darkness and suddenly, something shifts and we wake up to light and hope and the promise of a better day.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. Commencement address delivered by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, on June 12, 2005.

“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race” – Calvin Coolidge

Certainty: Everyone is making it up as they go along

When I have confidence, I can have a lot of fun. And when I have fun, I can do amazing things.

People are making it up as they go along. They are declaring, intending, choosing and applying new thoughts.

Create happy, progressive and empowering illusions. Act until you make it.

Every master once was a disaster.

Do you remember the first time you tried learning something new?

As a child, every time you wobbled or fell down and did not walk so perfect, imagine giving up. You will not be walking today.

“Anything in life worth doing at all is worth doing poorly – until you can learn how to do it well.” Zig Ziglar

Please be kind, yet firm with yourself.

Forget mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except what you’re going to do today and do it. Today is your lucky day. Will Durant

Start and take action unconditionally.

“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you willgrow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”Mark Victor Hansen

“The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving.”Oliver Wendell Holmes

There is no secret or a recipe, no short cuts and no free lunches.

Expectations: Look for the best in people, places and situations
“High expectations are the key to everything.”– Sam Walton, Wal-Mart Founder

Aude aliquid dignum. Dare something worthy. – Mottoes from 16th-century sources

The law of Expectations : Whatever you expect, with confidence, becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

(If you expect to fail, you will; if you expect to succeed, you will.)

The 100 Laws of Life by Brian Tracy

Have the supreme confidence of resolution, of knowing that whatever you expect will become your reality.

In this physical world, there is an explanation for everything, someone has done it before or achieved it.

Find out the system, game, model, structure

Be, do and have by following someone who has exactly what you want

You will attract to yourself what you accept, so look for the gold in people, places and situations. Seek out, collect and grow positive experiences.

In relationships, expectations place your happiness in the other person’s hands. Unknown

“Intention rules the world, because when you are truly clear about what you want – the entire universe stands on tip top waiting to assist you in miraculous and amazing ways to manifest your dream or intention.” -Oprah Winfrey
Anything is possible.

The world will give you exactly what you ask of it…

Do you make healthy choices that increase your personal power?

“We are the sum of all our choices. They define who we are. Choices. They are life’s constant. The choice to be brave & push forward. To turn back in retreat. The choice to stand still & watch the world pass you by. Sometimes we tell ourselves that there is no choice, when in fact the exact opposite is true. There is always a choice. Everyone’s got their own path. Some are only just beginning, while others end all too soon. However you do it, the fact is, the path you’re on, the choices you make, define who you are. Choices. They’re the building blocks or our lives, they shape our past, present and future. And despite all the mistakes I’ve made, every new day brings with it new choices and their whole new world of possibilities.” Being

There are time in our lives when we reach a crossroads, when we find ourselves stuck between a series of impossible choices. Should we move forward? Should we turn back? Which way is the right way? How do we know?…When there is an impossible choice to make, when we must choose a path, how do we know? How can we be sure we’re making a choice we won’t regret? -Erica, S3E10

Erica TV show

“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities”
- J.K. Rowling

Around 40 years ago, Yale University conducted an extensive seven-year study on how a persons actions in life effects the lives of his or her children. This study was focused around the lives of two men: Max Jukes and Jonathan Edwards. Max Jukes was an Atheist that believed in the abolition of laws and rules. Mr. Jukes formed an organization called the Freedom Movement that preached free sex, no laws, no formal education and no responsibilities. Jonathan Edwards was known by all as the “disciplinarian”. Not because he disciplined his children harshly, but because he was a self-disciplined man. He became a preacher that believed in leading by example. He authored two books on the subjects of physical fitness and kindness. Mr. Edwards later became involved in teaching people to be responsible for their daily actions. Both of these men were chosen for their diverse beliefs, but also because they both fathered 13 children. Here are the legacies they left behind:

MAX JUKES JONATHON EDWARDS
1026 descendants 929 descendants
300 convicts 430 ministers/314 war veterans
27 murderers 75 authors
190 prostitutes 86 college professors
509 alcoholics & drug addicts 13 university presidents
7 congressman
3 governors
1 Vice-President of the United States

There is only so much we have control over.

50 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL RIGHT NOW

by Lori Deschene

“Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown

CNN reports that psychic businesses are thriving in this challenging economy—and the clientele has expanded to include more business professionals who are worried about their financial future. According to Columbia Business School’s Professor Gita Johar who studies consumer behavior, the greatest motivation for visiting a psychic is to feel a sense of control.

Sure, there are lots of things we can’t control: businesses may fold, stocks may plummet, relationships may end–the list is infinite, really. But wouldn’t we be far more effective if we focused on all things we can control instead; if we stopped worrying about the indefinite and started benefiting from the guaranteed?

Right now you can control:

1. How many times you smile today.
2. How much effort you exert at work.
3. Your level of honesty.
4. How well you prepare.
5. How you act on your feelings.
6. How often you say “thank you.”
7. When you pull out your wallet for luxuries.
8. Whether or not you give someone the benefit of the doubt.
9. How you interpret situations.
10. Whether or not you compete with people around you.
11. How often you notice and appreciate small acts of kindness—they’re everywhere!
12. Whether you listen or wait to talk.
13. When you walk away from a conversation.
14. How nice you are to yourself in your head.
15. Whether you think positive or negative thoughts.
16. Whether or not you form expectations of people.
17. The type of food you eat.
18. When you answer someone’s question—or email or call.
19. How much time you spend worrying.
20. How many new things you try.
21. How much exercise you get.
22. How many times you swear in traffic.
23. Whether or not you plan for the weather.
24. How much time you spend trying to convince people you’re right.
25. How often you think about your past.
26. How many negative articles you read.
27. The attention you give to your loved ones when you see them.
28. How much you enjoy the things you have right now.
29. Whether or not you communicate something that’s on your mind.
30. How clean or uncluttered you keep your space.
31. What books you read.
32. How well you network at social events.
33. How deeply you breathe when you experience stress.
34. How many times you admit you don’t know something—and then learn something new.
35. How often you use your influence to help people instead of focusing on building your influence.
36. When you ask for help.
37. Which commitments you keep and cancel.
38. How many risks you take.
39. How creative/innovative you are in your thinking.
40. How clear you are when you explain your thoughts.
41. Whether you formulate a new plan or act on your existing one.
42. How much information you get before you make a decision.
43. How much information you share with people.
44. Whether you smoke or drink (unless you’re an alcoholic, in which case I am not qualified to offer you advice.)
45. Whether or not you judge other people.
46. Whether you smell good or bad (unless you have some strange resistance to soap and deodorant).
47. How much of what other people say you believe.
48. How quickly you try again after you fall.
49. How many times you say “I love you.”
50. How much rest you get at night.

Odds are some of these resonate with you more than others; so what? You can’t do 50 things at once anyway. When I start fixating on something I can’t control, I pick just one of these to think about instead. Minor changes in thinking, I’ve found, lead to major changes in my reality.

Read ezinearticles.com: 7 Easy Steps to Empowering Yourself

Montaigne on Self-Esteem

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