Dealing with your Relatives

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According to our surveys, you have identified the need for help with dealing with your relative.

These are examples of Messages From Childhood: They may have controlled your thinking, emotions and behaviors all your life. Cognitive Therapy can help you change these Rules, Beliefs, Strategies, Assumptions and Habits to more productive and adaptive ones:

In order to be happy, I have to be successful in whatever I undertake.
My value as a person depends on what others think of me.
If someone disagrees with me, it means they don’t like me.
I can’t live without a man (woman).
If I make a mistake, it means that I am inept.
To be happy, I must be accepted by all people at all times.
If you want people to like you, you should always be nice to them. Never confront them.
One must have full control over life at all times.
It is safer to keep people at a distance.
If they really get to know me, they won’t like me.
Others can make mistakes and violate the standards but I can’t.
Security is of utmost importance.
It is better to stay with the security of the known even if it is full of negatives.
Because I feel I am worthless, others must think I am worthless also.
Trusting others is dangerous.
I should not burden others with my troubles.
If I do not do my best all the time and achieve success, others will not like me and I will be unloved and worthless.
If there is a chance that something dangerous or fearsome might happen, one should worry about it.
One needs someone stronger than oneself to rely on.
My past is an all-important determinant of my present behavior and if something once strongly affected me, it will always affect me.
There is a right, precise, and perfect solution to problems and I should be able to find it.
If I sacrifice for others and always put them first, they will love me. 

Source: http://cognitivetherapymd.com/9543.html

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If

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ‘em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings – nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run –
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man my son!

– by Rudyard Kipling

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