Fear of rejection amongst South Asians

Fear of rejection amongst South Asians

South Asian people tend to be very emotional and are very fearful of rejection. The tend to seek more approval of others compared to other cultures.

Instead of being true to themselves, they tend to go out of their way to accommodate other people may it be friends, family or strangers.

There are positive side of this that this characteristic makes them likeable and build relationships.

However, this characteristic does not allow them to be assertive and true to themselves.

The amazing thing is that even you bend yourself out of shape for other people, you are less likely to please everyone.

By putting your own happiness in other people’s hands, you are at the mercy of other people’s approval, whims and mood swings.

Most people think more about what they are going to have for lunch than your well being.

“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.” ― William W. Purkey

As per Christine Comaford-Lynch, hold a rejection party and her mantra is some will, some won’t, so what someone is waiting. She also suggests that you throw a rejection party to overcome your fear of rejection.

You can also make a list of your fears and tackle one everyday.

Fear of rejection is natural, don’t take it personally and say “next.”

Go take a cold calling job, telemarketing job or paddle a product from door to door, you will overcome your fear very quickly.

At the end of the day rejection is not personal.

It is part of life.

As Frank Herbert said in his genius book, Dune:
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the ear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

Fear of all kinds and sizes is a form of psychological infection. We can cure a mental infection the same way we cure a body infection—with specific, proved treatments… con-dition yourself with this fact: all confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence. Those people around you who radiate confidence, who have conquered worry, who are at ease everywhere and all the time, acquired their confidence, every bit of it…action cures fear. Indecision, postponement, onthe other hand, fertilize fear… Jot that down in your success rule book right now. Action cures fear…Hesitation only enlarges, magnifies the fear. Take action promptly. Bedecisive.” ~ David J. Schwartz from The Magic of Thinking Big

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