Rights verses responsibility amongst couples

Rights verses responsibility amongst couples

Most South Asian men that I encounter, they are appalled by the fact that I even mention voice, advocacy and awareness for South Asian women. South Asian men tell me that they are victims and need representation themselves in the manner that their rights are not being met. It really makes me wonder, how true is it that they suffering from the hands of their women?

There may be cases where women are domineering, unreasonable and plain pain in the ass. However, I feel that a South Asian woman is stuffed with sacrifice, understanding and fore-bareness. Having a vast and diverse geographic, economic and social span of South Asian culture, personal experiences definitely vary. Let us talk about conditions of majority of women, the ones seeking help, the ones oblivious to the fact that they need help and finally those who have accepted their condition as their destiny.

And there are those who are so comfortable that you cannot motivate them to do, say or act on anything. Bills are being paid by my husband, my kids are growing up and I have some friends to gossip with, and that is my life. It is your life and your choice who am I or anyone else to criticize. Your parents gave you masters degree to fill up your time until you were married off. What is the need or urgency to utilize that knowledge, skills, brian, spirit or assert any effort?

As one of those secret guilty pleasures or dark side of me, I must admit that I look forward to the day that my future husband would earn and I would live a slow, sluggish and lazy existence taking care of our kids. Mind you not all women are like that. I see married South Asian women with children who active in the community and in their work.

Being said that what do you say ladies about your responsibility, since apparently North America is more than taking care of your rights.

Rights verses responsibility amongst couples an open dialogue and we would love to hear from you.



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