Skeletons In My Closet

 “If you can’t get rid of the skeleton in your closet, you’d best teach it to dance.”
George Bernard Shaw quotes

Skeletons In My Closet. Definition: Embarrassing or incriminating secrets from your past.

I wonder, if we could include guilty pleasures, dark side of a human being or even binges of over indulgence.

Who does not have them? No one is spared.

No one is immune.

Then why as human beings are we so ready and willing to  judge others.

Show me one person who is perfect, not growing or learning. The moment you stop growing, you are dead literally or figuratively.

I have learned to start saying however harsh it may sound:

  • It is none of your business
  • Everyone has a history
  • We all have challenges
  • Everyone makes mistakes
  • Nobody has right to judge
  • Takes courage to stand up for what you believe in no matter what and take ownership for your faults
  • You  may falter in your belief, doubt or worry, but as long as you are connected to your purpose, you are steadfast
  • If someone criticizes you, increase your effort, your resolve and your speed towards your goal

So learn to forgive yourself, accept the mistakes and resolve to not repeat them.

A cautionary tale to my fellow South Asians, be very careful who you share this information with because the moment you share something you have no control over that information.

It can come back to haunt you, ruin your chances of a relationship or worst have some serious consequences on your reputation.

If you are one of those people who do not believe in hypocrisy and don’t care to put up fronts, you just have to turn a blind eye to others.

Those others should not have any privileges they can keep from you as a way to punish you or withhold any affections. May it be family or strangers.

Tread carefully as there is some good on this planet, assumptions and lots of ignorance is ramped amongst many.

Why?

Have you asked yourself  who does their due diligence?

Who says that I will spend time with the person and make up my own mind?

It is easier and lazier way out to take the opinions of others. Those might be just opinions not based in truth, facts or reality.

They have never walked in the shoes of that person to know what that person went through. What curves life threw at them?

What they had to tolerate or go through, no matter how traumatic?

Do we ask enough questions?

This is an open dialogue, please feel free to contribute below.


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