Why caring too much is bad

I have been facing a situation where dealing with an experienced person who has a professional background is frustrating. Without giving too many particulars, here are the details.

Regardless of our backgrounds and experiences, nature of our daily interactions and working together matters the most.

Why caring too much is bad

Accountability: I tend to hang onto every word of a person. If they said, they would call, do something or show up, I used to expect that from a person.

I find so many people do not follow through on what they promise.

I set myself for disappointment by expecting that they will do as they said.

Beside excusing oneself for the obvious emergency or something important that came up, what reason they could have?

How are you suppose to have trust and confidence in people?

Aren’t we suppose to expect that of people?

Do these people treat others the same way?

Do I expect too much of people?

Is that treatment being given to only me?

Inclusion: “We don’t want you to worry about XYZ” is an assumption without my agreement. I don’t plan to be just a figurehead in this XYZ and would like to be a part of the decision making process. I have done so much work and would like to have a say and have a vision. We can bring our ideas and research to create XYZ together and not duplicate the majority of research that I have already done.


Communication: I like to be prepared and organized. I am trying to contact the person to find out about our preparation and am not getting a response back. The person does not respond back or plainly ignores my calls.


Transparency: When I am involved in a project and am not included on the correspondence.


Agreement:  I was trying to be part of the XYZ creation prior to our first meeting; however, the XYZ was neither accurate nor relevant.


Valuation: They have expanded on their experience, but my expertise don’t hold much meaning to them through their choice of words.


Use you as a bait: I go and do the selling or convincing, then they make you feel that I am not needed anymore. Whose vision, passion and conviction was it that brought in the deal.


Refusing to get over something: I refuse to work with someone who was brought into the equation. After several attempts to straighten this out, they are refusing to get over it. Although I went through them to eliminate the person.


The entire situation disturbed me so much that I have decided not to care too much and see what happens.


It is not worth loosing sleep over because it is taking my attention off my target of helping people and creating something amazing.


My girlfriend said that I am too much in the accountability department.


It is so hard to not let petty things affect you.


I am still not sure how to deal with this situation.


Am I being unreasonable?


Or should just not care too much and things will sort themselves out?

I really don’t know how to handle this situation, please feel free to comment below:

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