Why do South Asian women live in abusive relationships

Why do South Asian women live in abusive relationships?

South Asian families are based on the need of the collective which is in family, culture and religious context serving the need of many. As long as you remember the context that the needs of the group are more important than individual who is living his or her life to match with those of the group. This context makes individuals always adjusting their behaviour, sacrificing and trying to live up to the expectations of others. Through movies parents tell their daughters that you have married for life; their husbands home is their new place and they are to leave that place only when they are dead.

In addition to the context of group thinking, South Asian women’s identity, status and importance is defined by their marital status, children and home life. These women are not raised with the expectation of being the bread winner. In most cases, husbands earn the money.

South Asian women deciding to leave an abusive relationships will face or loose the following

  • Stigma of being abused or divorced
  • Pressures from the families
  • A paycheque
  • Their home
  • Their kids (less in North America)
  • Support of the community
  • Who is going to marry a divorced woman with children? (It is common in North America, but not in South Asian culture)
  • Shut up and put up mentality

Personally, life is too precious to be in an abusive, unhealthy or a dead marriage. However, every choice comes with a price and if you are willing to live with it, then you will make that choice for yourself. I would rather be poor, alone and disliked than be mistreated by someone.

You can see the documentary Unveiling The Abuse to show you Why do South Asian women live in abusive relationships?


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