South Asian Men

“Education is a kind of continuing dialogue, and a dialogue assumes different points of view.”

-Robert M. Hutchins

Surprisingly, so many South Asian men are coming forward offering help.
These are some of the stories that they told us:

-My father broke my mom’s nose and blamed it on me; I hate him.
-I took my sister and mother and ran away because my father was abusive.
-My father was a womanizer and I saw how he treated my mom; I never want to turn out like him.

Addictions, alcohol and womanizing seems to be the top causes.

Abuse, disrespect or maltreatment are not accepted under any circumstances by any gender. This is a delicate issue; however, we must give a place for our men here.

At times, South Asian women due to ignorance, poor attitude and their mood swings end up making their husband’s lives a living hell.

This may be because of:

  • Lack of education
  • Jealousy
  • Back biting
  • Control or ego issues
  • Sharp tongue
  • Poor attitude
  • Negative thinking
  • Lack of self-esteem
  • Depression
  • Laziness

We must aspire to do our best to not be the cause:

  • Be grateful
  • Be cheerful
  • Drama free
  • Take care of yourself
  • Maintain your weight
  • Pay attention to your hygiene
  • Reciprocate

Take responsibility for your own happiness to push yourself to find out what you are passionate about and how to make your husband’s life easier.

By no means we want to victimize South Asian men by empowering our woman to the point of arrogance, neglect or lack of reciprocity.

There are men who are pressured by their families to have a forced arrange marriage too and suffer the consequences of being with an unsuitable spouse.

There are South Asian men who have been abused as well and will never admit. These are things that we don’t talk about. These are very sensitive issues; most people turn a blind eye to it. Speaking truth requires courage, forgiveness and to know how to deal with. Resilience may be answer that children get over such things, block them out or forget them.

Speak the truth, deal with it and put a stop to it starting from yourself, family around you and generations to come.

Compassion, empathy and care is one of our responsibility.

We don’t want preferred treatment; just to be treated equally.

Here are some stories of men marrying South Asian women who have come forward to speak up.

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